Toxic positivity

"A refreshing tonic that offsets the pressure of society to be

lively, smiling emojis."

– The New York Times –

Every day, we are bombarded with tons of “obligatory” positivity. Social media is full of advice that urges us to look on the bright side of life — and only the bright side. Experts of all kinds — from life coaches to therapists — try to convince us that the key to happiness is to silence negativity. Even when we face significant challenges — illnesses, losses, breakups, and other unpleasant things — we are given little space to express our true feelings. And of course, there is no discussion of processing them before we reach the point of feeling better and moving on.

But if all this positivity is the answer, why do so many of us feel anxious, depressed, and exhausted?

In this groundbreaking book, acclaimed psychotherapist Whitney Goodman presents the latest research in her field, as well as stories from clients who reveal how damaging toxic positivity is to ourselves and our relationships. Using simple methods, examples, and dialogue, she shows us how to stand by those around us when difficult emotions overwhelm them (and yes, a simple “this too shall pass” is not enough).

The result is more authenticity, connection, and growth — and ultimately, a path to getting in touch with our true selves.